Parenting: Becoming THE Coach Your Child Needs….

Coaching

by Karrie Ross, exerpt from “Engaging The Textured Parent! Within.”
(c) 2009 all rights reserved
The process of coaching consciousness is a way to become a more informed and textured consciously connected person. You are preparing the way to become a parent with the ability to coach your child through life’s experiences.

Here are some thoughts to keep in mind about the concept of coaching.

Coaching is:

•  Inspiring, building strategies, writing a new story and connecting, clarifying and committing to a new perspective.
•  Creating a shift in language, listening, seeing, thinking, and actions.
•  Learning to associate with and trusting that we have the knowledge and ability to make healthy decisions for ourself.
•  Looking at our internal and external conversations objectively.
•  Writing, journaling and making lists, being present, honest and allowing of our behavior as a way to better see who we are being.
•  Asking open-ended questions to allow expansion and acceptance of thoughts we might not otherwise be aware of.
•  Creating a goal, a focus as a way to increase our ability to generate energetic actions, to be impassioned and motivated, the ability to follow through.
•  Finding the way to move forward. What are the obstacles on the way to the end result? What is our desire? Look at and acknowledge it.
•  Converting fear into intention and intention into commitment then shifting language to declarations. ie: I will… I am… I have already…
•  Looking at how we talk to ourselves, our internal dialogue, and examining the choices we’re making. Reframe and ask how we can declare this in a different way, different words, feelings and action.

Key Coaching Concepts:

•  We create our own lives through our thoughts, our words, and our actions. Think “there is no failure, only possibilities.” If we find that one possibility is not working, create another one. Ask yourself, “What else can I do, what else is there that I’m not yet seeing?” These are all open-ended questions. These are forward-moving questions. Life is made of possibilities and let’s change the concept of failures into learning situations on our way.
•  Be conscious of what is really happening. Notice if it is being imagined from a place of insecurity, fear or limiting beliefs. Asking ourselves if the story being created is based on our preconceived fear of the situation or the purity of what is being seen and heard in the moment. Being able to watch from a “fly in the corner” position outside our physical body. Seeing, allowing and being aware of the bigger picture and where we are in IT.
•  Belief drives behavior. Behavior drives how we act. Create a healthy attitude to our internal and external interpretations of our world.
•  Everything children learn, mirror, is a direct result of how they are treated, responded to and allowed to behave.
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Karrie Ross is a Life Coach and mother and can be reached at karrie@beitnow.com

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